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>The 20pF specified is the total capacitance including stray capacatance.

Right.
The point that most people miss, is that from the crystal's point of view, the caps are in series, so you need twice the spec value, minus the strays. 

But, they do "work" with just about anything. 
They WORK all the time, and on freq with the right values.