Datacolor User to User Support Group.

What targets do you chose? Color matching two monitors would involve
setting the same target (not Native on both). Do you actually use the
RGB controls BTW ? Ideally on an LCD you shouldn't , but for matching
two monitors there's no choice.

As a shortcut (don't flame me) you can load ICC profile of one monitor
as a target for the second monitor.

I suppose without the RGB controls on one monitor you could measure
it's native WP (calibrate to Native, use validation and look at info)
and calibrate the second one (with RGB controls) to that target. But
that would make them both look like something you don't like according
to your post.

Achieving the right colors on a calibrated monitor usually requires 
both adjustments to the monitor itself (either through buttons or
ideally through DDC, which you don't have) and the software adjustment
to videocard output (LUTs) that gets loaded on startup. So if you
don't have either RGB buttons or DDC I suppose you get a more limited
choice of targets.

And trust me - colormanaged browsers (there are none for Windows yet
unfortunately) cause even more confusion than non-colormanaged browsers.