Digital BW, The Print

I'm shooting actor headshots.  I've got a Canon d60, Epson 1280, 
piezotone warm neutrals and... eh!  I'm waiting for "the paper" to 
arrive because thusfar, with the Epson Archival Matte, the results 
are just plain unacceptable.  The Hahnemühle Photo rag is on 
backorder, and I don't know if IT will satisfy whenever I finally 
ACTUALLY see the stuff.  It's such a crapshoot, I'm this close to 
returning to the darkroom.  Does the right paper REALLY exist?

Is anyone out there SO happy with their digital b&w production that 
will PLEASE ease my fears that I've dived into a technology that 
really hasn't gotten there yet?  Help me!!!  Is it possible to find 
b&w satisfaction in the digital world?  Can real b&w be achieved?

I'm at a point where I just want someone to say, "try this paper 
with that particular ink and printer and you'll get very good 
results".  Because so far, well... I'm tired of wasting money.

Thanks for any thoughts.

Treadwinkle